I want to talk about an issue that has being on my mind for a while now… this issue of comparison, envy, jealousy and its siblings.
The issue of comparison is eating deep into our society especially with the advent of social media. All over Instagram, Facebook and the likes are filled with airbrushed photos and basically the paintings of a good perfect life.
Unfortunately people tend to gauge the progress of their lives by comparing themselves to others. This is really bad as its important to know that we all have different journeys in life, as our lives are different so are our challenges.
The fact that someone is always well put together doesn’t mean, everything is going on well for them. Some people look at me and think, mehn this babe has millions in her pocket, but that isn’t true. Sometimes I’m so broke, that it’s not funny. The fact that I always look good doesn’t mean I have all the money in the world.
If you don’t know someone well and you’re having sleepless nights, thinking they have it all going together, you couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Or imagine a couple you’ve being fantasizing about their marriage, you get to spend one day in their home and you can’t wait to run out, because what they have is a screensaver marriage.
You’re not yet married, and all your friends are married and having children? My dear calm down, our journeys in life are different.
Envy, jealously and comparison have led people into doing unthinkable things just to measure up or outdo the other person. If, unfortunately, you have a friend who is an envious or a jealous person, I would advise that you cut off such friendship.
Don’t compare yourself to others. You don’t know what they are going through, or the challenges the beautiful clothes are covering. He that wears the shoe only knows where it pinches.
By the way, if Instagram and Facebook makes you depressed, you have self esteem issues and you are spending way too much time on social media.
Never envy anybody; the person you are wishing to be like, is also praying to be like someone else. The key is being grateful and contentwith where you are now, while striving to be better.
Let no man be the yardstick with which you measure the success of your life. Success, to me, is achieving your God ordained purpose. Our life journeys are different, and that which you term a delay;, could be part of God’s plan for your life.
If you compare yourself to someone else, you are not wise. Don’t leave the road marked for you, to take someone else’s path; it will lead you to nowhere.